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|As-salamu `alaykum. I have recently heard that it is more important for a Muslim mother to marry off her daughters before going to the hajj. Is this true? Jazak Allah khair.|
Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear sister, we would like to commend you for your question and for your care about your daughters.
Upbringing children is a great responsibility that some careless parents may neglect or at least do not give due care. Marrying off daughters, generally speaking, may have priority over hajj and `umrah if daughters are in the marriageable age. But, if you can, by any means, do both of them, it will be the best, that is according to your financial ability and the age of your girls.
In his response to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states,
No doubt that the Islamic teachings are based on priorities and when we are faced with two options, we must choose the most important one.
In the case of a mother who is left to choose between marrying off her daughters in marriageable age and performing hajj, she should opt for the former. If, however, they are not of the marriageable age, or she can afford to do both, then she should not put off her hajj.
She may rather use the hajj to pray for her daughters to find suitable partners. Mind you, there are special places and sites in hajj such as tawaf, the standing of ‘Arafah, etc., when prayers are more likely to be heard.
Allah Almighty knows best.