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|As-Salamu alaykum. I was inviting a Belgian Christian to Islam; he has accepted many things especially the concept of God, the purpose of life, and prophethood in Islam. Yet, he said that he needs what is beyond that: He accepts and believes in "Why to live"; he wants to know "How to live." I think this is an important and a positive point, for Islam is so detailed and explains explicitly the topic that he asked for. However, I need your advice and some relevant examples on how Islam provides us with a perfected way of life. Jazakum Allah khayran.|
Salam Dear Sary,
Thank you for your question and for contacting Ask About Islam.
May Allah reward you for your efforts in da`wah. Just keep in mind that you will be rewarded not according to whether or not your friend accepts Islam, but according to your efforts, for it is only Allah Who opens hearts.
This may be the biggest change in your friend’s lifestyle, as it probably will entail getting up earlier than he is accustomed, finding a place to pray at work, and changing the daily schedule a bit, especially on Fridays when he must attend the congregational Jumu`ah Prayer in a mosque. But the personal relationship with God—with no intermediaries—is all-important and must be begun from the start.
For my family, God is someone they ask help from and someone they worship on Sundays, but His laws don’t really have much place in their lives. For sure, they don’t murder, steal, or cheat; but they accept pre-marital sex and homosexuality as just a part of modern life. “Times change.”
If my experience can be generalized—and for sure there are exceptions on both sides—then if your friend accepts Islam, he should expect to live his life differently because he wants to develop his relationship with God and keep in touch with Him.
I hope that the mosques near him will have supportive programs for new Muslims to help them make new friends and adjust to the many changes they have to make.
The lives of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and his Companions can give us guidance and inspiration, but when questions arise on how to deal with certain situations, Muslims should turn to someone educated in Islamic fiqh (jurisprudence) for answers. There are many books written that discuss the basics of an Islamic society.