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|Stressed Out of Life|
|As salamu `alaykum Lately I have been dealing with a lot of issues like having a hard time starting my own business, the pressure of finding a husband and recently my aunt passed away. So I'm not sure whether my problem is stree related. You see during Ramadan I, al hamdu lillah increased my worship. After some time of reading the Qur`an I have begun to understand the message that this life is fleeting and not to get caught up in it at all. This has lead me to feel that everything is so insignificant. Nothing is important anymore and I feel like I am just really waiting to die. I still pray and everything, but I feel lifeless inside. Everyday I wake up and I follow the same mundane routine. I feel like I have to turn into a zombie and that I have nothing to live for. Maybe my attitude may change once I get my life on track, but I can't shake off this feeling. Is it wrong to feel this way? What should I do? Thank you for your time…|
AnswerAs salamu `alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh me dear sister and may your increased worship and prayers be answered in sha'Allah.
They say events happen in threes!
One can be knocked off ones feet when a series of sad events take place one after the other. How one reacts to those events differ and the affects might not fully surface until we take time out. This Ramadan was time out for you, al hamdu lillah, and it a time I appreciate because I can take time out of the momentum of the year. It seems that the events have affected your perception and understanding of the main leeson you learnt this Ramadan and has left you feeling unable to resume your life as it was before, and neither should you be expected to. You kept on struggling each day and probably hid from yourself for a while in order to keep on going. Al hamdu lillah that Ramadan came when it did and allowed you to slow down, but you should try to distinguish between what you learnt and how you have really been feeling.
Our thoughts and feelings influence the body via the nervous system and the circulatory system. The brain reaches into the body through nerve impulses throughout the body's tissues, the endocrine system, the bones, muscles, internal organs and the walls of the veins and arteries. Stress can affect the heart rate. The brain as a gland releases many chemicals into the bloodstream as well as receive nerve impulses.
Stress ( the instinctual fright or flight response) can affect people in different ways. For some the affects demonstrate themselves through ones health, others through a need to always be distracted/busy, and for some it is a mental process. Stress can take on the following forms:
Stress is a natural way of coping with lifes pressures resulting in changes in the body , but if the stress response is maintained, there is negative impact. Physiologically the body's immune system is compromised and one is less able to abosrb the necessary vitamins and minerals.
Stress can also be self-induced and takes the following forms:
Maintained over a long period of time, natural stress can develop into Acute Stress Disorder which is a reaction to a traumatic event. Generally the symptoms can approximately take up to a month to appear. The symptoms are:
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The loss of a loved one can make one realize the purpose of ones life or the purposelessness in ones life. The beauty of Allah's grand plan is that no life is ever wasted, it is only we who waste the life we live or/and the lives of others and in Islam, this is indeed a sin.
"The implication here is awareness, constant, perpetual, self-effulgent awareness for its own sake, and not an awareness of any particular created thing. Awareness of something is ghaflah –???? – (distraction), because it then we will miss some other thing. But if we have a pure awareness, then we are open and made available, and the knowledge we need in any circumstance will come to us... If we are sensitive enough, we find meaning in every breath, and then every occurrence that takes place in front of us has meaning. But we are generally insensitive, and if we do not see it as it passes, then it is gone forever and we have missed it…Every split second Allah is giving us a meaning in order to show us the total ecological balance in this existence, the mizan – ???? - (balance)" – Sheikh Fadhlalla Haeri.
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