Question and answer details
|As-salamu 'alaikum and Ramadan mubarak to all respected scholars. I have a question. My Christian girlfriend is 'accidentally' pregnant with her ex-boyfriend in her country and is going to give birth to a baby boy soon. She has hoped for me to at least become the 'godfather' of her baby child. Therefore, is a Muslim man allowed/permitted to be the 'godfather' to a Christian baby and provide support therein for this case? Please give a unanimous view regarding this matter. Thank You.|
|Dr. El-Sayed Amin|
Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear brother, thank you for your question that shows your interest in Islam and its rulings.
It should be clearly understood that any relation between a woman and a strange man, under any name, is forbidden in Islam. Hence, a good Muslim must not have such relations that will lead him or her to great problems in this life and to Allah’s punishment in the Hereafter.
As for children, they should be named after their real fathers, as adoption is forbidden in Islam even it is permissible in the law of this country or that.
In his response to your question, Dr. El-Sayed Amin, a lecturer of Islamic Studies in English, School of Languages and Translation, al-Azhar University, Cairo,
First of all, you need to seriously consider that having this woman as your girlfriend is prohibited in Islam. You need to cut your relationship with her and turn for a new chaste and pure marriage relationship.
As for the baby, I advise you to leave him to his mother to take care of him. There should be an arrangement in a country like
Having said this, I should say that there is nothing wrong that a Muslim acts as a Godfather for a baby or a child as long as he/she is not named after him. Allah says in the Qur’an, “Assert their relationship to their fathers; this is more equitable with Allah; but if you do not know their fathers, then they are your brethren in faith and your friends; and there is no blame on you concerning that in which you made a mistake, but (concerning) that which your hearts do purposely (blame may rest on you), and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (Al-Ahzab 33: 5)
You might have noticed that while being the Godfather is generally okay in principle but in your case if you acted as a Godfather for that baby, you are more likely to fall into sin again as a result of frequent contact and familiarity with your girlfriend; the relationship with whom is categorically forbidden in Islam.
Allah Almighty knows best.