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Depressed in `Eid? If Yes, Read This!

By Maryam Bachmeier
Psychologist, Counselor, Writer – U.S
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It is true that human beings, whether now, in the past or future, will at sometime feel depressed and/or experience some low self-esteem.

Depression is now the zeitgeist of our time in all parts of the world. Everyone has his own reasons and problems that make him depressed and having low self-esteem.

With `Eid is here -which is supposed to be the most joyful occasion to all Muslims, how can one feel the joy of `Eid despite his depression and problems? Can `Eid be a starting point for overcoming depression altogether?

It is true that human beings, whether now, in the past or future, will at sometime feel depressed and/or experience some low self-esteem. The ups and downs of life are not something specific to this current time.

The answer to the previous question is that regardless of the event, we still need to explore the cause of our depression and seek ways to resolve it.

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You have to investigate whether or not your depression is circumstantial, or if you have a depressive disorder.

If it is circumstantial, you will want to ask yourself if celebrations trigger feelings of low self-esteem for you, or if you personally experience the remembrance of grief, either consciously or unconsciously during times like these.

Some people do become depressed during times when they associate with family and connection, especially if they are not getting their own needs for family and relationship met.

But take care; it is not wise to generalize your own feelings of depression and low self -esteem to the world. As you will escape dealing with your own state of being when you do that, and it won’t help you recover. You will actually become more depressed.

Always notice that the act of generalization is a sign that the person who does that is depressed and may have feelings of low self-esteem.

The reason I am pointing this out, is so we can reset and move forward in our own personal goals to wellness and recovery rather than suppress our depression, by projecting it onto the world.

This shift of focus will help you in feeling good. What you want to be concerned with here is how you feel, not the world, and if you are feeling depressed or have feelings of low self esteem, then focus on finding out what might be causing that as well as what you can do to alleviate your uncomfortable feelings.

With that first step, you can look for the meaning of Eid and apply it to your personal life story. This can have a very healing effect. Don’t be afraid of depression and feelings of low self esteem, rather work through them.

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Shift your focus from the consciousness of the masses, seek not the temporary joy of this world, and meditate on the meaning of Eid.

Take the Chance

Especially this `Eid is a perfect starting point for working through our issues, as it is a reward for Muslims who struggled through Ramadan and achieved a whole month fasting.

It is a solemn holiday, one of remembrance of how obedience to our Lord is the answer to everything. This means surrendering your life, your whole being, all that you are, all that you have and all that you identify with to the Lord.

When you sacrifice everything that you identify with to Allah, He gives to you your authentic and eternal self. That is the spiritual “secret” that so many humans seek. The experience of Eid can definitely get you in touch with this “secret” if you surrender to the experience, and to Allah.

Your idea of `Eid may be about laughter, joy, family, and food, and you may not have that in your life; know that the true joy is in giving everything to Allah, He will then give everything to you.

Shift your focus from the consciousness of the masses, seek not the temporary joy of this world, and meditate on the meaning of Eid. This is surrender, this is sacrifice and this brings Peace.

Contentment is more priceless and eternal than the joy of this world. Eid celebrates this surrender and can bring you closer to experiencing celestial joy.

We can prepare ourselves and purify our hearts and minds so that we can receive the true meaning of Eid. Anyone who has achieved a level of purity has also achieved that same level of inner peace and resulting spiritual joy.

Indeed, if you follow the Islamic Calendar, you will never be without a spiritual tool that when joined with prayer will be powerful medicine in your own personal journey toward wellness.

Wellness, happiness, wholeness…this is the state of being that we are indeed striving to experience.

By detaching from limiting beliefs, and ways of behaving that no longer serve our well being, we are sacrificing all that is false in us, all of the images of ourselves that we hold on to, for something better, authenticity.

When you come to this place, you will naturally be in a state of obedience to Allah.

This shift of consciousness is achieved through spiritual practice. Also, you can use the experience of Eid to jump start your journey toward happiness, wholeness, wellness, and obedience to Allah, which will make you closer to Him.

The cycle changes from drifting away from Him and feeling depressed, and attached to worldly matters, and spiraling down, to being pulled toward Allah and feeling attached to Him and closer to him which makes letting go of worldly matters easier, and results spiraling up.

There is light at the end of the seemingly endless dark deep tunnel. If you surrender to this process, you will not be the same person you were before, but that is good. You will be better and your understanding of eternal life, that which is beyond the veil, will increase as will your understanding of how you are close to Allah.


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