OnIslam.net

Q and A on Muslim Minorities (Live Session)

kutty

On Sunday, March 4, 2012, we managed to run a successful e-mail based Live Fatwa session with Sheikh Ahmad Kutty on “Muslim Minorities”.

Interestingly, users reacted positively and sent their questions via the Fatwa section’s e-mail address in and ahead of the session’s time. The honorable guest, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty kindly responded to all the questions.

Below you can review all the questions and Sh. Kutty's kind replies:

*********************************************************

Question 1:

Maryam – Canada

Punishment

As-salamu `alaykum. Why are the punishments having your hands cut off for stealing, being stoned to death for adultery and other extreme punishments? Why are the punishments so harsh if Islam is the religion of peace? Where does the peace come in? Please, explain this to me because I just watched a video where these punishments were carried out and it disturbed me a lot. If we are taught not to judge someone because only Allah has that right, then why are there such punishments?

Answer:

These punishments were not innovations of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him); rather, they were part of the laws as revealed to Moses and practiced by the earlier prophets.

However, over the years, the laws were implemented without regard for their spirit; as they became tools of oppression and injustice; targeting the week and the poor; as the rich and those in power got away. Thus, the innovation of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was to implement them in their true spirit. He said, “The people before you cut the hands of the poor and let the rich go; by Allah, if Fatimah, the daughter of Muhammad were to steal, I would cut her off hand.”

Furthermore, the Prophet (peace be upon him) also introduced extremely stringent restrictions, with the result they were next to impossible to fulfill with the result, they became deterrents rather than actual punishments applied at all times.

Furthermore, the Prophet (peace be upon him) also introduced extremely stringent restrictions with the result they were next to impossible to fulfil with the result; and hence they became mere deterrents rather than actual punishments applied at all times.This is why the caliph `Umar waived the punishment of cutting on a number of occasions. It is also worthy of knowing that in order for stoning to take place, four witnesses have to testify, and they must agree on the exact specifics.

Having said this, I should also point out that today in some so-called Muslim countries these laws, instead of serving as deterrents and instruments of justice have been turned into oppressive measures. It is therefore, imperative that Muslims work to rectify the situation and restore justice.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 2:

Hajar – Canada

Hajj

As-salamu `alaykum. I have recently heard that it is more important for a Muslim mother to marry off her daughters before going to the hajj. Is this true? Jazak Allah khair.

Answer:

No doubt that the Islamic teachings are based on priorities and when we are faced with two options, we must choose the most important one.

In the case of a mother who is left to choose between marrying off her daughters in marriageable age and performing hajj, she should opt for the former. If, however, they are not of the marriageable age, or she can afford to do both, then she should not put off her hajj.

She may rather use the hajj to pray for her daughters to find suitable partners. Mind you, there are special places and sites in hajj such as tawaf, the standing of ‘Arafah, etc. when prayers are more likely to be heard.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 3:

Sana – Canada

Parents

As-salamu `alaykum. I am 16 years old daughter with a family who doesn't care about religion at all we moved to Canada 3 years ago from Pakistan. I started to see the difference between culture and Islam. Now my parents see the change in me and they ARE NOT liking it and trying their best to stop my "going religious" as they call it. I am not allowed to go to my Islamic volunteers or classes anymore. Whenever I try do da`wah to my family, I get made fun of. That's why I need my Muslim friends even more for some support. Please, help!

Answer:

I must commend for your desire to learn and practice your faith earnestly. I pray to Allah to bless your efforts, and give you peace of mind.

Now coming to your question:

You need to exercise patience until you become a mature adult when you can decide for yourself; until then, you should practice your faith within the constraints of your home as best as possible; you also need to pray to Allah to open the hearts of your parents to see the truth.

Mind you Allah can change the hearts. So never cease praying to Him for help and guidance.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 4:

Zubia Zeeshan - Pakistan

Hijab and Niqaab

What is the difference between hijab and niqab with respect to Islam? More I do take hijab in my daily life that is all the body cover except face, palm and front parts of legs are open. I just want to ask you: is it necessary for me to cover my face too? Since I don't feel comfortable with niqaab? Please, reply.

Answer:

Hijab is often used for the modest attire that adult Muslim women are required to wear; it does not necessarily involve face veil. One may fulfill the requirements of modest attire very well as long they dress modestly by wearing loose fitting clothes that cover their bodies except faces and hands.

Niqab, or face veil, is not a requirement; the reason being—as pointed out by a number of eminent mufassirin (commentators of the Qur’an)-they need to identify themselves.

Furthermore, as stated by Ibn Jarir, the doyen of the Qur’an commentators, since the women are not supposed to cover their faces in salah and hajj, one can safely conclude that face veil is not mandatory in Islam.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************

Question 5:

Aicha – Canada

Extra Prayers

As-salamu `alaykum. My name is Aisha. I want to know are extra prayers acceptable between normal prayer times. I know fajr is 2 rak`as and then two sunnah but are extra prayers accepted when you are with someone who is ill or dying?

Answer:

Prayers can be divided into three types:

1. Fardh, or obligatory ones,

2. Highly recommended ones (sunnah mu’akkadh),

3. Voluntary or optional (tatawu`).

As for the first two, one should be diligent in performing them; as for the mere optional ones, one must take care to performing them in those times when prayers are forbidden.

The forbidden times are as follow:

1. When the sun is actually rising,

2. When the sun is at the meridian,

3. When the sun is actually setting.

Barring these times, one may offer optional prayers; there is no limit in the number of rak`ahs one could perform, although it is best to do them in even numbers of two or four.

Having said this, I should point out: while doing the optional prayers, we must never lose sight of the priorities. In other words, one must never be occupied in performing optional prayers while neglecting his or her essential duties. For as the first caliph Abu Bakr advised `Umar, “Allah will not accept an optional deed at the expense of an obligatory one.”

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 6:

SF – Male – India

My Three Sons Have Died: Need Help and Advice

I have 3 boys in heaven and 3 girls on earth. Why this is happening to my sons? I don't know. I want to have a healthy son. I have been praying to Allah for this from the day my eldest son died. Even for the conception of this baby I prayed so hard to Allah for a healthy baby boy who can be a support for my daughters if you desire this let this conception happen or let no pregnancy occur. Though he is in heaven I feel depressed. What du`a can I ask for a healthy boy, du`aa that is accepted by Allah?

Answer:

I can very well empathize with your situation as there is nothing harder on parents than the loss of their own children. So, I pray to Allah to console your heart, inspire you to accept Allah’s will with patience, and make your children pioneers, preparing the way for you in paradise.

You, also, need to learn from the example of our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him). Even though he was chosen by Allah as the Prophet and His beloved, Allah chose to take away all of his male children at the very tender age of infancy.

His daughters survived longer, but they were also taken away during his own life-time, except the only one; Fatimah. When his last son Ibrahim died when he was barely eighteen months, the Prophet shed tears, and said, “Our heart is grieving, and our eyes are shedding tears, and yet we would never protest against Allah’s will!

So, as a believer, it behooves you to accept the will of Allah. Allah in His wisdom has chosen to call them to Himself; insha’ Allah, if you are patient, they will be kept as treasures for you in jannah (paradise). That is the only way to console yourself as a Muslim.

Therefore, I advise you never to allow the Satan to shake your faith in the Supreme Wisdom of Allah.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 7:

Ather Jamil – Kuwait

Hajj-E-Badl

Dear Sir, I performed Hajj in 1992at the age of 19 when I was student and not financially well off. I performed it with my old mother. I made intention to perform it for my late father. This year I am going again and TO perform my Hajj Fard, since I am well off now. But I was told that, regardless I was student and not earning hand in 1992 and regardless of making niyyah for my father, first Hajj was from me. Now I shall have to make Hajj Badl or Nafl Hajj. Please, clarify what niyyah to make.

Answer:

Hajj was not fardh on you when your mother took you there, since you were simply a student and not earning. So, you were not wrong to do it for your late father with the intention of doing hajj on behalf of yourself later, when you are able to do it.

If that was the case, you should choose to do this one for your own self. Although the other view is also possibly correct, you are not doing wrong in choosing the option mentioned above.

You don’t need to worry over this issue: Allah will reward you for your intentions as long as you do your best not to disobey Allah and His Messenger. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Actions are judged by intentions, and everyone is rewarded according to his or her intention.” (Al-Bukhari)

So, you may choose to do this hajj for yourself as you did the first one on behalf of your father.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 8:

Uzma Naveed – Canada

Fasting

If a person dies and has not ever fasted but was Muslim, can their children offer Kaffarah or fast in their place?

Answer:

If the person never fasted because of valid reasons such as ill-health, travel, etc., then it is a good idea for the children to offer fidyah on his behalf or even fast.

There is no precedent for paying fidyah or fasting on behalf of someone who deliberately neglected the fasts without any valid excuse.

Having said this, I should also point out: If the children may do so and pray to Allah to send the rewards to him, there is nothing wrong in it.  After all, children are the work of parents; and no one can put a limit on the mercy of Allah, which is Infinite.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 9:

Help – Female - US

Abortion

I am an Arab Muslim girl. My family is great and has not done anything to deserve to deal with my mistakes. I have been in a relationship with this guy for 3 years. He is Muslim convert. I have made a mistake and gotten pregnant and I am 10 weeks. I told my mother and she tells me that I must get abortion. But I don't feel like that is the right decision to be made here. For one, my baby does not deserve to die for my mistake, but I also would like to start doing things the halal way, and I know that killing my child would not be a good start. On the other hand, my family means so much to me and I really don't want to hurt them. I don't know what to do. I need the best Islamic way to deal with this, because I think if I deal with it Islamically that Allah will forgive me someday. But if I try and do it the easy way out, then I have yet again went against Allah's wishes. Please, let me know what is the best choice Islamically.

Answer:

If you have sinned in the past, and now regrets and wish to repent earnestly and sincerely, Allah will forgive you. However, you must do so without further delay. You cannot resort to abortion; that is committing a double sin. The best course of action for you is to marry the man if he has repented.

In this way, you can cover your sin, and thus you may also provide a father figure in the life of our child. Although this may make your parents angry, that is the best you can do to save the situation.

So, you need to explain to your parents patiently, and pray to Allah to open their hearts. Even if your parents do not accept this now, later, they may do after their emotions settle down.

Allah Almighty knows best.

***********************************************

Question 10:

Taleeb – India

Ahl Bayt

Assalam Alaikum. There are hadiths which talk about the importance of ahl Bayt. In one of the hadiths the prophet even said which implies that he (the prophet) is leaving two things among us -- the book of Allah and ahl Bayt (Muslim). (O people, I am a human being. I am about to receive a messenger (the angel of death) from my Lord and I, in response to Allah's call, (would bid good-bye to you), but I am leaving among you two weighty things: the one being the Book of Allah in which there is right guidance and light, so hold fast to the Book of Allah and adhere to it. He exhorted (us) (to hold fast) to the Book of Allah and then said: The second are the members of my household I remind you (of your duties) to the members of my family.)

The question is: Why rulings are different for family members of the Prophet (pbuh)? Why are they not like the other Muslims? (What is the wisdom behind it?) Jazak Allah!

Answer:

The above statement does not in any way indicate that the Prophet’s family is in any way different from others. The Prophet (peace be upon him) would never contradict the clear principle of the Qur’an as stated in the verse, “O Mankind, We have created you from a single pair of a male and female and rendered you nations and tribes. Verily, the noblest of you in the sight of Allah are those who are most conscious (of Him).

The Prophet (peace be upon him), therefore, addressed his own daughter Fatimah saying, “O Fatimah, save yourself from hell-fire; I cannot save you. You may ask me whatever you may from my wealth; but I cannot save you from the punishment of Allah.” The Qur’an tells us, in no uncertain terms, that Noah’s son perished because of his refusal to choose to follow the guidance. Allah told him, “He is not your family!

Likewise, the Prophet (peace be upon him) told Mu`adh as he was sending him as a governor/judge to Yemen, “Remember, the people closest to me are those who are conscious of Allah—no matter where they come from!

In conclusion, there is nothing in Islamic sources to suggest that the Prophet’s family is a different class of people like Brahmins in Hinduism with special privileges—although ironically, some Muslims tend to believe so.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 11:

Lameese Suliman – UK

Child Born out of Wedlock

As-salamu `alaykum. I have a burning question I am in desperate need for a accurate answer as over the years I have different answers so I need help. My child was born out of wedlock. She is now 7years old mash’Allah. Her father and I were in love when we were younger and were desperate to get married.  Unfortunately, I fell pregnant before we were due to get married. We had planned to get married as soon as she was born, but he left me.  I was virgin before we committed the sin. However, since he left, I raised my daughter alone as he did not want to help. After 6 years we reconciled contact and I have explained what I have always waited and wanted to do and that is to do the nikah as soon as possible.  I know I have committed a terrible sin which is not my daughter's fault but all I've ever wanted to do is to correct this problem.  My question to you is: is it possible after all these years to still do the nikah and make my daughter a legitimate child as well as repenting for the sin we committed?  I want to know if we can correct this mistake and sin and make my daughter legitimate. Please, help me with your advice as I am desperate.  Shukran jazeelan. Wasalm.

Answer:

You may do so, according to the rulings of some eminent jurists. That is a better option for you and your daughter, and the man involved. However, before doing this, both of you need to repent and ask forgiveness of Allah.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 12:

Zainab – UAE

Hair Removal

As-salamu `alaykum. Is it proven from any authentic report that is we don't remove the hair from our private parts and arm pits within 40 days, then our Salah will not be accepted?

Answer:

Removing the hair from the private parts and armpits is a Sunna; the Prophet called it as the way of nature and practices passed on from the previous prophets. Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said, “The Prophet (peace be upon him) told us to clip our nails and remove the hair from our armpit and private parts every forty days.” So, it is recommended that we follow this Sunnah as best as we can.

However, to the best of my knowledge, there is no hadith indicating that the prayer is not acceptable if a person fails to do so. That would be the case, if by not removing them his purification is rendered invalid because of filth accumulating in those areas. Otherwise, prayer is not affected. “Allah accepts (good deeds) only from those who are conscious of Him.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 13:

Salman Hakeem - Nigeria

Interfaith Marriage

As-salamu `alaykum. Am I allowed to marry a Christian woman? If yes, under what conditions? Is it mandatory on me to compel her to practice Islam, even if it's against her will?  What are the strictly religious reasons to divorce wives (Muslimah or Christians or Jewish)?

Answer:

A successful marriage is above all based on mutual compatibility in beliefs and ideals. The Prophet (peace be upon him) told us to choose marriage partners based on sound faith and character.

It is my own experience as an imam and counselor spanning over three four decades that there is a greater chance of marriages between followers of two different religions failing. Therefore, I would not recommend this marriage.

Having said this, I cannot go as far as saying it is haram in all circumstances.

The strict circumstances to divorce one’s wife can be briefly stated as follows:

Mutual incompatibility and irreconcilable differences; spousal abuse (physical or emotional), lack of sexual fulfillment; failure to provide for one’s wife and children.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 14:

Shabana Maryam – US

Mistake During Tawaf

As-salamu `alaykum. I was doing `Umrah and during the 6 or seventh round I  became confused that I might did six rounds so then I made another round but now I'm upset about it that if I did this mistake how should I correct it?

Answer

You need not worry about this, for you have acted rightly. According to the rules of jurisprudence, when we are in doubt, we ought to act on what we know to be the certain fact.

So, you had no doubt that you had done the six rounds, and therefore, in case of doubt you are supposed to do another to complete the seven rounds.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 15:

Dino Nazamodeen – 70 – male - Canada

Mr. Sunah and Hadith

As-salamu `alaykum. Sir, please, explain what is the "Sunnah" and what is the "Hadith". Thanks very much for your time.

Answer

These terms are used in slightly different senses in the various Islamic sciences. It is impossible here to elaborate on this issue due to the constraints of this forum.

Therefore, I can only answer this question briefly:

Sunnah in Arabic means a practice; in Islamic terminology, it refers to the normative practice of the Prophet (peace be upon him). The question arises, where do we find the normative practices? The answer is, we find them in the authentic hadith.

The word hadith in Arabic means report, narration, news, etc.. However, in the Islamic terminology it refers to the reports of the words, actions and approvals and disapprovals of the Prophet (peace be upon him).

So, we learn the Prophetic Sunnah from the authentic hadith or traditions of the Prophet (peace be upon him).

Since the hadith is the vehicle of the Sunnah, in the science of principles of jurisprudence, the Sunnah is referred to as the most important source, second only to the Qur’an. Both terms are, therefore, used to refer to the same thing.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 16:

Eyebrows – UK

Mrs – Snipping Eyebrows

As-salamu `alaykum. The hair at the start of my eyebrows, the larger side, is longer than which most people have. Can I snip these hair to straighten them up. I have a lot of stray hair around my eyebrows, can I pluck these hair to make it look clean, straight and tidy. Can you, please, answer me rather than refer me to a similar answer, because I get really confused. Thank you.

Answer

You are allowed to keep your eyebrows clean and tidy if the hair is too thick or unwieldy. Plucking them, however, amounts to disfiguring. Hence, it is forbidden. You may refer to detailed answers posted earlier…

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 17:

Sofia

Negligence

As-salamu `alaykum. I am a doctor from 13 years ago. Soon after my house job in Pakistan, I started working in a hospital. I had a senior with me. One day a pregnant lady came with very high blood pressure and fits. The senior doctor admitted her, gave me some instruction and went home for the day. I was new and inexperienced. I used to check outdoor patients, gave them medicines. If she was not going to stay, why did she admit her with the help of a senior surgeon? I operated the lady and delivered the baby. The operation was good, no complications.

After surgery, I asked nurses who will take care of patient now. They said that doctor in emergency will see to her if anything happens. There were nurses in the ward to take care of her. I told nurses to check her blood pressure frequently and went home. On ordinary days I used to go home around 1.oo p. m., but that day I stayed late with her. After that it was weekend, when I came back after weekend, the patient had expired. I was young and did not think about it much. After 3 years, it haunts me. I am so scared. I do not know if it was my negligence or inexperience or maybe not both. I blame my senior doctor that she should not have left or if she was going she should not have admitted her. I did what I knew. I could not have done anything better. I do not even know her name or where the family lives.

The Pakistani system is so disorganized that I have zero hope of finding her. If I try to find her, what should I tell my husband, as I do not know myself if it was my fault. Maybe I could have given her some other medicines. All I knew was how to deliver the baby, I did not know much about managing blood pressure. When nurses told me that emergency doctor will take care, I felt kind of relived that now they will treat her better. Maybe I should have checked on her next day, but it was weekend and for one month I worked there, I was not supposed to go on weekends. I keep thinking different scenarios and going crazy. I have 20000$ of jewelry. Should I give it in charity on her family behalf? Please, help me.

Answer:

As far as I can conclude from your own statements of facts, you did everything on your part to provide the care for the patient. So, there is no need for you to feel guilty about the oversight on the part of the nurses or other physicians responsible for the care of the patients in your absence.

However, if this incident still bothers you, it is a good idea to give what you can in charity on her behalf, besides asking forgiveness of Allah. You may pray in the manner we are ordered by Allah in the Qur’an: “Our Lord, Take us not to task if we forget or unwittingly do wrong! "O our Sustainer! Lay not upon us a burden such as Thou didst lay upon those who lived before us! O our Sustainer! Make us not bear burdens which we have no strength to bear! "And efface Thou our sins, and grant us forgiveness, and bestow Thy mercy upon us! Thou art our Lord Supreme: succour us, then, against people who deny the truth!” (Al-Baqarah: 2:286).

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 18:

Yasser Mohsen – Egypt

Non Muslim Questions

"ISLAM means peace acquired by submitting your will to Almighty God." My question is: if I don't submit my will to god, am I refusing to be at peace with Muslims? Could it be said that I am at war with them? So, three questions:

According to Shari`ah law, what should be done with people who: mock Islam, Allah or Prophet Mohammed?

Are homosexuals (yes, involving sex and all that, also possibly marriage and adopting kids)? used to be Muslims but decided to say "F**k it, I'm leaving, this is all nonsense"?

Answer:

A Muslim is told in the Qur’an—in numerous places— not to react to those who mock their religion or beliefs or practices; and walk away from them saying, “Peace."

It is therefore, not true to say that Muslims are ordered to use violence against them.  Muslims at no circumstance are supposed to take the laws into their own hands, for that would lead to chaos and lawlessness, which is wholly abhorrent in Islam.

Those who have chosen to reject Islam or go out of the fold by making blasphemous statements are left to the judgment of Allah. Our duty as Muslims is to present Islam as best as we can. We are not allowed to force it down the throats of people, for the Qur’anic imperative is, “There shall be no coercion in religion; truth stands distinct from falsehood.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 19:

Salleh Bin Ngah – Qatar

Umrah

As-salamu `alaykum. Last few years I went for `Umrah, while in Makkah, we went to visit a friend in Jeddah (after we complete our `Umrah) but without performing farewell tawaf (tawaf wada`). We went back to Makah without performing tawaf. After we were about to leave for Madinah only, we did the farewell tawaf. Do I have to pay any penalty?

Answer:

You are not guilty of any breach of the rules of ‘umrah, for farewell tawaf is not a requirement of ‘umrah; it is only essential in the case of hajj.

There is no evidence in the sources that the Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered any of his companions who performed ‘umrah that they should do farewell tawaf. He only said this to those who came for pilgrimage.

Therefore, the authentic ruling of scholars is that farewell tawaf is not necessary for those who perform ‘umrah.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 20:

Tee - Australia

Waiting After Nikah

As-salamu `alaykum. My husband and I have had our nikah for about 1 year and 3 months. He is living overseas and due to his visa we decided we will not consummate (ruksti) the marriage until he comes here. In the beginning we both thought the visa would not take more than 6 months but it has now been over a year and he has not received the visa. I know I can't blame anyone on this as it's not in our control but the situation makes me feel very frustrated and depressed. I keep trying to remind myself it's all in Allah's will and control but the feeling always comes back and it's worse and worse every time.

I start getting very negative about him and my marriage. I really hate these negative feelings because my husband is a good person masha’Allah. I believe it would be better for us to have the marriage/ruksti now as it’s been so long and we have no idea when the visa will be ready. However, he disagrees and he is asking for a further 6 months when he arrives here so he can have a stable job and be able to finically support me. He is afraid he will be a burden on others if we have the marriage/ruksti straight away (as we would have to live in our families home until he can afford move out).

He would like to earn some money to rent apartment so it’s easier for us both when we live together after the marriage. I have a few questions:

1. Are financial reasons a permissible excuse for delaying the marriage (consummation/ruksti) in Islam?

2. Will Allah (swt) be more pleased with me if I am patient and obedient to husbands wishes or will Allah (swt) be more pleased if we had the marriage and lived together? (I would have to live overseas until he gets the visa which I am fine with).

3. Is my husband's fear of financially supporting me a lack of tawaqul (faith and trust in Allah) or is it a responsible decision of fulfilling his rights towards me?

Thank you for your help, your answer will definitely help me insha’Allah.

Answer:

1. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “O young people, those of you who can afford to so (financially) should get married; as for those who cannot, they should fast (in order to curb their desire).

Therefore, your husband is right if he wants to put off ruksathi until such time when you can afford to live together, without being a burden on others.

2. Allah will be pleased with you as long as you try to please Him; in this case, it seems to me, your husband is right; so you are best advised to obey him.

3. Tawakkul is not abandoning ourselves to the fate; rather, it is to do everything within our means and then placing the trust in Allah. The Prophet told the nomad, “Tie your camel first and then place your trust in Allah!” Therefore, your husband’s decision cannot be judged as lack of tawakkul.

I would advise you to exercise patience, and pray to Allah to make things easy for both of you so that you can start the family life in a way that would be pleasing to Allah and to both of you.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 21:

Munna – UK

Zina & Marriage

As-salamu `alaykum. I am writing to ask you a question in regards to zina as I have caused with one female. I am asking for forgiveness and insha’Allah she does to as I advise her. I am trying to marry this woman but neither her family nor my family will accept each other and we recently have gone through a miscarriage of a child but it was unlawful. Can you, please, advise me how it would be halal or haram to marry this women without her or my parents consent as I have been told by friends that it can be done halal that I can marry her without consent of parents. Is this true?

Answer:

If you are both mature adults, you may choose to marry as long as you are deemed to be compatible in faith and character. Marriage is intended to protect us from sins; if that is the only way for both of you to keep away from sins, you are allowed to get married—even if your own parents object to it.

Having said this, I should also point out: You are never allowed to dishonor your parents because of their refusal to give you permission to marry. You owe them respect in all worldly matters.

Allah Almighty knows best.

************************************************

Question 22:

Salami Ajimotokan - Nigeria

As-salamu `alaykum. You are doing wonderful job here. Please, keep it up. Please I sent some questions during the Fatwa section but they were not answered.

My Question is: In Nigeria, we have girls singing what they call Islamic Music. Is Music allowed in Islam?

Answer:

Music is allowed as long as it is uplifting the spirits and free of all obscene, lewd, or unethical themes or messages.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) did allow girls singing; he only stopped them when they used expressions that were unacceptable in Islam. You may refer to the more detailed fatwas on music on this site.

Allah Almighty knows best.

The editor of OnIslam Live Fatwa service.

Add comment


Security code
Refresh

Banner