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Questions and Replies of Sheikh Ahmad Kutty in the E-Mail Based Live Session
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On Saturday, March 31, 2012, we managed to run a successful e-mail based Live Fatwa session with Sheikh Ahmad Kutty on “Muslim Minorities”.

Interestingly, users reacted positively and sent their questions via the Fatwa section’s e-mail address in and ahead of the session’s time. The honorable guest, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty kindly responded to all the questions.

Below you can review all the questions and Sh. Kutty's kind replies:

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Question 1:

Kristi – 43 – US

Animal Sacrifices

As-salamau `alaykum. In lieu of sacrificing animals during Hajj, can you feed the poor; give to charity, etc. some other way?

Answer:

Sacrifice is needed only when you are performing tamattu’ or qiraan Hajj, but if you have chosen ifraad there is no need for sacrifice. However, in the case of ifraad, you need to stay in ihraam until you have fulfilled two of the important rituals of hajj such as pelting, shaving or tawaaf al-ifaadhah on the tenth of dhul hijjah.

In the case of tamattu` or qiraan, you are to offer sacrifice. However, there is no need for you to do it by yourself; you may simply buy the coupons and the sacrifice will be done on your behalf. In this way you can also rest assured that the meat of the animal you sacrifice is going to the poor. If you cannot afford to pay for the sacrifice, then you should fast ten days (three days during hajj) and seven after you have returned home.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 2:

Arshad - South Africa

Right Hands Possessed

As-salamau `alaykum. My question relates to “The right hands possessed”. I read that during war, one was able to take female captives and have sex with them. So, what happens if they do not believe in god? How is this “marriage” valid? But more importantly, what happens if they are already married, especially if they are Christians and Jews or evens Muslims? How can someone take another person’s wife especially if it’s a marriage that Allah has made sacred?

Answer:

These laws you have referred to do not apply now; they belong to a time when taking prisoners in wars and using them as slaves was the norm. This can be proven by referring to all of the previous scriptures.

Islam came to such a milieu; it set its goal from the very inception to abolish slavery altogether. This can be proven by the simple fact that even in the Makkan surahs which were revealed in the early years, we read freeing of slaves as the greatest spiritual ideal to be cherished for those who seek nearness. It is a fact that the Prophet (peace be upon him) freed all of the slaves that came into his possession.

So since slavery has been abolished forever, we cannot bring up this issue now. For it is not different than someone asking about permission to drink wine on the ground that it was not forbidden in Makkah.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 3:

Ahmed

Earning of Badminton

As-salamau `alaykum. My sister is going to give badminton coaching to children & women. Will her earning or salary from this job be halal or permissible?

Answer:

If your sister is coaching children and women and getting paid for it, her earnings are halal. I don’t see any reason why we should declare it as haram since she is being paid for a beneficial service she is rendering. The original rule in Islam is: everything is permissible unless proven otherwise.  Therefore, since there is no evidence to declare it as haram the rule of permission prevails.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 4:

Islamic divorce – 25 – Female - US

Divorce

As-salamau `alaykum. I got a legal divorce in America is my Islamic nikah also voided. I haven't seen my x-husband for over a year now. But he still sometimes calls to bother me. Another proposal came for me. Can I accept and marry again?

Answer:

If you had a genuine ground for a divorce and you have followed the Islamic procedure for seeking a divorce, and you approached the court and he was given the chance to defend himself or explain himself, and the court issued the divorce, then it can be endorsed as a valid Islamic divorce. In Islam, a judge can dissolve a marriage in certain situations; that would be the case if he refuses to give you an Islamic divorce, after failing to live up to his responsibilities as a husband. Therefore, if the above is true, you are divorced from him. However, for your own benefit, you are advised to get your court divorce endorsed Islamically to clear any doubt in your mind and thus put the issue to rest.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 5:

Faria – 25 – US

Divorce Valid?

As-salam `alaykum. I am from India. I had been married for 7 months. My husband who lives in USA came to India for marriage. After marriage he applied for my visa which was approved. But due to delay in his visa approval he has to stay back and we were staying with his family in India (Hyderabad).

His family consists of 2 elder sisters, mother, father, brother. They started harassing me saying as ill fated; they started asking me money etc. But in spite of this I was assuming that after we move to USA the things will fall in place. My husband never had any problem with me. He just wanted me to do masters here and start earning as soon as possible.

After marriage there was not even a single day that I lived happily with him. One day I came to my parents' house with my husband and in-laws permission to live with them for few days as they leaving to USA. The conflicts arouse again and they started abusing me in front of my family. But the situation was handled by my family and then my parents left. I was staying back in my parents' house; my husband never came to meet me whenever I asked him. He always told he is disturbed and busy with his official work.

One day he got his visa and left to USA; he did not even come to meet me. Due to his behavior my family was worried that he may divorce me after moving back to USA. So my family thought if I join him here everything should be fine. I came to USA and was staying in my uncle’s house; I and my uncles went to meet him and tell him that I was here. I apologized to him for coming here without informing him and assured me that he will call me back after searching an apartment.

But within a week he went to India and gave divorce and sent the papers to my home. As I was not there we did not accept the papers but he told me this in email that he divorced me. The divorce he gave me talaq ba’in.

My question to u is:

1) Is my divorce valid?

2) He took money from my parents asking for dowry so we are planning for a dowry case on his family in India according to Islam, can I book a case against him?

3) By Islamic law what make divorce valid or should I sign the paper?

4) If we want stay together, can I stay with again?

5) What is the punishment? Is he going to be punished or me?

Answer:

If this is the first time he has divorced you then it is considered as a single divorce, thus it cannot be termed as baa’in. Talaaq baa’in is a talaaq in which a man cannot take back his wife. If he wants to get back with her, he can only do so through a new marriage contract. That is not the case in the case of a first time divorce; you may get back during the ‘iddah or waiting period following the divorce. The waiting period is three months or three menstrual cycles. So, if you wish to return to your husband you may do so within the prescribed period.

However, because of the issues you have raised, before you do so, you are best advised to ask for professional Islamic counselling in order to resolve the issues that are outstanding. Otherwise, it would be the same story all over again. His behaviour towards you is not befitting a conscientious Muslim, for Allah orders Muslim men to treat their wives most affectionately.

In case of divorce, he owes you the dowry and mahr he has taken from your parents. He has no right to keep them. If he does, you can sue him for them.

If he is guilty of the abuse and disgusting behavior, you have alleged, then, certainly he is at fault. He will have to stand before Allah for judgment. While referring to disputes between husbands and wives Allah says, Allah is all-hearing and all-knowing, which is an indirect warning that men are accountable before Allah for any abuse or mistreatment they inflict on their wives.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 6:

Tara - UK

Mrs

Drawings Alimentation

As-salamu alaykum. I read this on a website it:

Drawings of animate objects such as animals and humans are in general considered to be haram with the following exceptions:

a) If the image is partial or incomplete and not a full-body image, then this is halal

b) If the facial features of the image have been erased even if it is a full-body image, then this is halal.

Then I read this on another website:

The Prophet (SAWS) said: “The image is the face” (Ahmad)

So, if the picture has the feature of the face, it is a picture and an image that should not be drawing by hand unless there is a need.

My question is:

1 - If I draw a detailed drawing (by detailed I mean not like a stick man drawing but a very detailed one) of a full body except the face, is this haram?

2 - If I draw a detailed picture of certain parts of the face for example only the bottom half of a face or if I draw lips only eyes only, is this haram?

Answer:

The image making that was forbidden by the Prophet (peace be upon him) was clearly associated with paganism and worship of idols. So, you need to ask yourself whether the drawings you are making have any association with shirk; if it does, then it is clearly forbidden.

If, however, it has nothing to do with that; rather it is simply used as a medium of communication, then there is nothing wrong with it. This is the ruling of eminent scholars today as it has become a powerful medium which Muslims can only ignore at their own peril. That is why even those scholars---some of them are dead while others are still alive-- who used to object strongly to photography and picture taking declaring them as haram on the same grounds you have mentioned now have allowed for their pictures to be taken and distributed all over.

In conclusion, you cannot compare the drawings or pictures taken for communication with the image making referred to in the sources as forms of shirk.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 7:

Abdul-Hafeez – 41 – Nigeria

As-salamau `alaykum. I am an electrical engineer by profession. I own a company which sells products and services in the Information Technology (IT) and Renewable energy industry. My question is: is it halal for me or my company to sell products or provide services to Banks and financial institutions dealing in interest. A scholar once termed such transactions as "assisting them in usury." What is the state of such earnings?

Answer

If you do have the choice to selectively choose your customers, then you may avoid rendering such services to banks or such financial institutions.

If that is not the case, and you are bound to do that, then you may be excused as long as the services you are rendering are halal. It can be compared to some extend to selling foods or items to someone who may use it in other than permissible ways. Muslims were selling grapes and fruits to non-Muslims even though some of them may use them for preparing wine and intoxicants.

Anyhow, if you do render such services to such institutions, it is still safe for you to strive to cleanse the taints of haram by giving out charities and asking forgiveness of Allah.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 8:

Heeba – 30 –US

Food

As-salamu `alaykum.  In United States most of the bakery foods (like cake, biscuits) yogurt, ice cream contain vanilla. And we know that alcohol is used while extracting vanilla. So, my question is: is it halal to eat Vanilla flavored food?

Another question about kosher food: Yogurt like yo plait yogurt contains kosher gelatin. Can my kids eat this yogurt? My kid does not like to drink milk. So, as a calcium source I give her these yogurt. Is it halal? Hope I will get the answers as soon as possible because it is a question of taking halal/haram food. Jajak Allah khair. Heeba.

Answer:

You should avoid foods which contain alcohol or foods flavored with alcohol. That is closer to piety. Having said this, I should also point out that there are some scholars who are of the opinion that it is not unlawful to consume those foods as long as alcohol has been wholly transformed chemically so that it has lost its original nature. This would be the case if consuming those foods in larger quantity does not cause any intoxication since the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If consuming a lot of it causes intoxication, its smaller quantity is also forbidden.”

As for the second part of your question, let me point out that not all gelatin is haram; it is only gelatin that is extracted from pigs or animals we are not allowed to consume. So, if you can ascertain that the kosher yogurt does not contain gelatin from pigs, then you may consume it, even if it comes from a cow, sheep or goat or chicken. We are certainly allowed to eat the meat slaughtered by the Jews in accordance with the requirements of their religion.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 9:

Ganiyah – 35 – US

`Iddah - Divorce

As-salamau `alaykum. I am looking for some clarification on a very important issue. I pray you can help me. I will like to know how to calculate my iddah (waiting period) for divorce.I got married to my husband in May 2009 and the marriage was a very abusive one, he used to hit me and threaten me. He also stopped observing salat except for fajr prayers for the most part. But it was the abuse that really hit me. I lost four pregnancies in three years, but alhamdulillah I came out with my life intact. On january 16th this year, he poured feces on me and tried to force same into my mouth because we were having a disagreement and he got angry (he gets really angry easily and it is scary). He later told his brother and my aunty that he was so angry with me that if he had a knife at that instant he would have stabbed me with it. He said he was no longer interested in the marriage and told me that if I did not leave his house by the end of February, 'things will get ugly', he also said he had initiated divorce proceedings in the court (USA courts) on january 27th. I talked to my father and decided to move out on February 1st.Prior to this episode, he has told me he wanted a divorce on several other occasions. The major occasions are:

- Around September 2009, he beat me and moved out of the house telling me he was no longer interested in the marriage, I told him he had to go and tell the Imam but he never followed through and we settled the fight.

- About a year later in 2010, I was heavily pregnant and he left the house for about a month saying he was no longer interested in me or the marriage. He even maintained this in front of the marriage counselor, but again I begged him and he changed his mind.

- Then I had a still birth in January 2011 and shortly after that we got into a fight and he sent me out of the house, when family members were trying to settle it, he insisted that he was no longer interested until they convinced him otherwise. During this occasion I saw that he completed the divorce forms.

-In April 2011, he told me he was no longer interested in the marriage, that I should prepare to move out. I called my father in Nigeria and told him, my father talked to him on the phone but he denied not being interested anymore.

- In December 2011, he told me one day that he regretted marrying me that he did not think we are right for each other and was going to file a divorce. I told him that divorce was not the most pleasing thing in the site of Allah, but he cursed at me and seemed to have made up his mind. I started to make dua and he came around for a little while.

-Then finally the episode of the last assault, and I could not take it anymore and I think it’s time to leave the marriage for my peace of mind. By the time the trouble started on January 16th (that’s the day he poured his feces on me), I did not know that I was pregnant again, but the pregnancy did not progress well and the doctors gave me an injection to terminate it on February 6th, at which point the pregnancy was only 4 weeks. I started bleeding on February 14th.

My question is: how can I calculate my iddah? Is this considered the first divorce? Or is it the final? Should I wait for my monthly period to resume again and then count three cycles or should I count three months from the day he said he filed the divorce? Please, advise me. Thank you! Told me that he will file the formal divorce papers once the baby arrived.

Answer

I cannot figure out from your question whether he actually pronounced the divorce in words or writing in a sober state or not. If he did do so, then you are divorced from him. If, however, he only threatened you with divorce, and that he told you that he would divorce you shortly by sending the papers, then the divorce takes place only when you get the legal papers, and a decision is made on it by the legal authority or the court of law.

According to the principles of Islamic jurisprudence, a certain fact cannot be removed by a doubt; since you were certainly married, the marriage cannot be nullified except by a certain action indicating divorce. It is, therefore, best and safest for you in this case to start counting your divorce from the time you get the court dissolution of marriage.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 10:

Rez - Iraq

Miss

Fortunetellers & Disbelief

As-salamu alaykum. I am sorry for sending such a long question but I fear I may have committed shirk that is why I am in such a rush to get hold of answers, I apologize. Please, open this link and read the answer because my question is related to this:

http://seekersguidance.org/ans-blog/2011/09/20/does-going-to-a-fortuneteller-entail-disbelief/-

Here the Sheikh writes, “…it is actual disbelief if the person believes the fortuneteller actually conveys from the unseen realm. “What does “conveys from the unseen realm” mean? If I go to a fortune teller and ask them about matters to do with the unseen and I believe what they say is accurate only because I know they work with the jinn, am I a kafir?

Also, if I believe only Allah knows all of the unseen but a fortune teller knows parts of it (not all but parts) because Allah has allowed them to know it. He allowed the jinn to tell the fortune teller what they heard when they were eavesdropping. So, therefore, Allah is allowing them to learn about some parts of the unseen - would believing this make me a kafir? I don’t want detailed answers, a “yes this is kufr” or “no it isn’t” is more than enough. Thank you so much for your help.

Answer:

If someone attributes knowledge of ghayb to anyone other than Allah, that is act of kufr. So, as Muslims we are forbidden to visit palmists or astrologers who practice such crafts. It is not good for us to make such distinctions as stated in the answer you have cited; it is true that some scholars of the past such as Munawi have made such distinctions.

However, it is best that we close the door to such superstitions altogether. Since the Prophet (peace be upon him) has clearly warned us against visiting those who peddle in such arts, we may do well to shun them altogether. Otherwise, we may end up condoning such fraudulent practices which fleece the gullible, and breed laziness and fatalism. Unfortunately, this is true of communities where such practitioners thrive and flourish.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 11:

Qasim – 25 – Nigeria

Mr.

Male Doctor

As-salamau `alaykum. What is the Islamic ruling on male medical doctors specializing in obstetrics and gynecology?

Answer:

Under normal conditions, it is not allowed for male medical doctors to specialize in obstetrics and gynecology which deal with care of women's reproductive tracts, pregnancy, childbirth, etc., as it involves looking or exposure to parts of female bodies which are taboo for men to look at. It is not allowed for them to do so, especially if there are females who are able to treat such cases.

It is imperative that the community has enough females specializing in this area so that they do not need to resort to males. That would be better for both the physicians and patients.  The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “When a man and woman, who are strangers, isolate with one another the third companion who will join them will be Satan!” In other words, such isolations may give rise to temptations leading to sinful encounters. This can be easily confirmed by a careful look at the statistics about high frequency of sexual harassment cases in the work place and offices.  The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Keep away from the doubtful, for by doing so, one is apt to keep his faith and honor safe.”

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 12:

Irfan Khan -33 – India

Working in Interest Based Bank

As-salamu `alaykum! If one working in any interest-based bank realizes that his earnings were not Halal and is sincerely wishing to do Tawbah (repentance), what is he supposed to do: e.g. if he has given gifts to his children from that income and has built house from the same. etc. what should he do in that case?

Answer:

If you have realized that your income from your work was tainted with haram, then you need to cleanse it by giving away charities and making lots of istighfaar. In the case of working with the bank, there is no need to consider all of your income as wholly haram only part of it; so you can take out as much as you think may fall into this category and ask forgiveness of Allah. Allah is Forgiving--once you have repented and done what you could possibly do.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 13:

Salam – 25 – Norway

Questions About Disturbing Issues

As-salamu alaykum. I was wondering about something that has gone very wrong in many Muslim countries which is obsessiveness in female sexuality. It seems to me that this obsessiveness has led to a counterproductive result. If you look at statistics for Google searches (from 2005 before attempts to block) you find Muslim countries like Saudi Arabia tops the list among searches for the most criminally disturbing things. Also the disturbing stories coming out from Saudi Arab and countries, like Afghanistan, show that that something has gone very wrong.

Other Muslim countries like Egypt have an incredibly high sexual harassment rate, where 83% of Egyptian women have experienced sexual harassment. Throwing more clothes at the problem hasn’t worked, what can be done, especially since sadly these statistics destroy the life for women in these countries and embarrass the Ummah?

Answer:

You have raised a pertinent question. No doubt there seems to be increasing obsession with female sexuality in many Muslim countries. The reasons for this have to do partially with the extreme segregation between males and females as well as the less than ideal method of imparting ethics and morals in these societies, for Islamic education has often been reduced to rot learning and legalism instead of proper ethics, morality and spiritual training.

In light of the above, there is a genuine need for our scholars to root out misogyny and stereotyping of women from the literature that is produced in these societies. In order for this to happen we need to empower women and produce capable women scholars who can take charge and pioneer reforms.

Having said this, however, I should also point out that we must never rely totally on what is reported in the media. For, the media, these days, are having a field day with bashing Islam and Muslims. As the social scientists say, people tend to see only what they are looking for.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 14:

Anon - UAE

Relationship & Oaths

As-salaamu `alaykum.

Info:

As-salamau `alaykum. A never married lady was in love with a man. Her parents disapproved of him and made her to make a promise to them that she would never meet with him again. Recently, the man has been diagnosed with AIDS (according to the man) and he has made the lady promise that she would make regular contacts with him, maintaining good relationship just as a friend till the man's last breath.

Question:

Now, she has made TWO contradictory promises to two different parties: 1) her parents, and 2) the man. What is she supposed to be doing now according to the Islamic Shari'ah? Jazak Allahu Khairan.

Answer:

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If someone has vowed to disobey Allah, he must never fulfil that vow.” In other words, he should rather go ahead and do what is virtuous and pleasing to God never mind the vow he has made.

Therefore, in the scenario you have mentioned, it is wrong on a woman’s part to promise a man (she is not married to) to continue relations with him as if they were married. It is definitely sinful for her to do that. So, she should ask forgiveness of Allah for her past sins, and fulfil the promise she has made with her parents, and stop all contacts with this man. That is the only course of action she could do in order to please Allah as there is no obedience due to anyone in disobedience to Allah.

Having said this, she should provide whatever humanitarian assistance she can provide without being in direct contact with him.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 15:

Sami – 49 - US

Restaurant Manager

As-salamau `alaykum. My son was hit by a car few years ago.  file for lawsuit but insurance for the car that hit my son decided to pay for the damage any way which was the sum of money  to be paid to my son when he is 18 years old .Is that money halal?

Answer:

You are entitled to receive the money the court has decreed as a payment in lieu of the damage caused by the driver who hit your son, if it was the fault of the driver. Insurance companies are not in the business of doling out charities to anyone. Therefore, there is no need for you to refuse taking this payment.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 16:

Muslima – Indonesia

Supplications to Repel a Curse and Other Things

As-salaamu 'alaykum. Respected Scholars, when I was an undergraduate student, I went to the market to buy some clothing. After searching and asking, I picked one piece, but then I realized I did not have enough money to pay. So I canceled buying the item. Upon this, the merchant said to me: "If you don't buy, then I wish for you that when a man approaches you, that he would cancel his intention to marry you, just like you cancel to buy the item."

But of course I walked away, not only because I did not have any money, but because I did not want to buy from a merchant with such an attitude. I am in my thirties now and still not married. There were a number of men who expressed their interest in me via my parents, but I turned them down because I was not interested in them. But there were also a number of other men who were interested in me whom I was also interested in, in different span of times, but who later canceled their intentions.

My question is: am I (still) under the curse of the merchant? What supplications or religious rituals can I do to repel this curse?

If you suggest a supplication, please, write them also in Arabic character, because supplications written in Latin alphabet always confuse me about their pronunciation. And, please, include the meaning of the supplication too. I have several more questions. I have been told that reading Surat Al-Waqi`ah every day will increase our provision (rizq).

I have also been told that if I want to get a husband I should read Surat Ar-Rahman repeatedly. Do both suggestions have a sound basis in Islam? And also it is said that one of the best times for du`aa’ is during prostration.

I have been told that it is good to make du`aa’ at the last prostration of our obligatory five daily prayers. Is this true? And if we do supplications during prostration in prayer, can we also make supplication in our native language concerning our particular matter with our own words during that prostration?

Can we also do supplication in prostration outside of the Salah? Are there different rulings between doing supplication in prostration during and outside Salah? And what supplications and religious rituals do you suggest for me to ask for a good husband? Thank you very much for your answers and I hope Allah SWT rewards you plenty for your efforts. Jazakum Allah khayran.

Answer:

It is superstitious for you to think that the man has the ability to cause harm to you for refusing to buy something you couldn’t afford to. In Islam, it is considered undesirable if not unlawful to do so. So you have done the right thing under the circumstances. So how could the man curse you? He is certainly at fault by doing that. So, you don’t need to be obsessed with this thought. You need to cast it out of your mind by believing firmly that only Allah has the power to bring benefit or harm.

There is no need for you to attribute your failure to get married to this incident. That is purely a negative thought. The Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us to be positive and strive to achieve our goals by using the methods given to us as well as by praying to Allah.  He said, “Look towards beneficial goals, and seek the help of Allah (after putting forth the best of your efforts) and never feign helplessness. If something does not turn out the way you had wanted after having put forth the best of your efforts, then don’t say, “I wish I had done this or that” rather you should say, “that was the will of Allah”. Such (negative) thoughts would only open the way for Satan to play with your mind!

As for reading Surah Ar-Rahman repeatedly for getting a good husband, it has no evidence to support in the authentic sources. You may read any standard du’as, especially du’a of salaatul haajah and ask for Allah’s help. On salatul haajah and other relevant dua’s you can access the detailed answers posted on this site.

I pray to Allah to fulfill your genuine wish to find a life-partner who would be an asset for you in you practice of Islam and serve as a true companion in both worlds.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 17:

Sis Aisha – 30 – US

Welfare and Marriage

As-salamau `alaykum. I was speaking with someone the other day about the right of a Muslim wife as far as her husband having to provide her with shelter, food and clothing. The person I was speaking with said that it is OK for a man to have his wife on Government assistance as long as her needs were met, even though he would not be the one directly taking care of her needs but the taxpayers and the government would. The person also said that the man can even have more than one wife and all the wives be on government assistance. Is this Islamic? Please provide hadith proof with your answer.

Answer:

The man is certainly wrong in thinking that he can marry a woman, and neglect his obligation to support her and send her to claim welfare or government assistance. Such a thought is totally abhorrent to Islamic sensitivity; it is contrary to the Islamic teaching of self-reliance, which forbids parasitism. The Prophet said, “A giving hand is better than a receiving hand.” He said, “O young people, those of you who can afford to support a family should get married; if he cannot afford to, then let him practice fasting for it may help curb his lust.” He also said, “There is no sin for a man more heinous than neglecting (to take care of) his family.”

So, how could any conscientious Muslim think of marrying a woman without intending to provide for her?

Furthermore, it is not allowed for us to make use of welfare unless we are forced to. It is the tax-payers money; so a Muslim who has a sense of dignity should not make use of it. By doing so, he is also setting a bad example for his children. We learn about the Prophet’s companions that because of the ideal of self-reliance and self-respect that the Prophet nurtured them, they were never in the habit of asking people for anything—even if it were to retrieve a whip which has fallen from their hands while riding.

In conclusion: The man who thinks that he can marry as many women as he wants without being able to provide for them, and make them dependent on government or community assistance is totally ignorant of Islamic ethics and morals.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 18:

Muslimah - Pakistan

Obsessive Compulsive Thoughts: Wiswas During Exam

As-salamu `alaykum. May Almighty Allah bless you for your efforts of helping others. I am a student and my age is 17. I am suffering from a serious problem. I used to be really good in studies but now it's not the same. I feel horrible and pressurized during the exam preparation. No, it might not just be stress or exam pressure... I feel these are the wiswas that bother me so much and I feel disgusted. During papers my behavior becomes changed with others. I become over sensitive and I start to examine deeply how I talk to others etc.

I keep on apologizing to my family members specially my mom again and again even if I have not said anything wrong or hurtful. I feel that for anything bad that I'll do Allah Almighty will punish me and I will get a bad result in my paper. I feel extremely tense during afternoons for exam preparation n get extremely relaxed at evening more than required.

If I recite anything before starting my preparation, then I continue to recite many things thinking that if I'd leave anyone of them it would not be good for me. I feel as if everything that will happen in surrounding will affect me and my preparation.

Sometimes I feel as if Allah Almighty's mercy is definitely with me, other times I feel that what if Allah hates me or is not with me? I also get thoughts which are too terrible to be expressed. I feel stressed out.

Please, guide me and enlighten me with your suggestions. Sorry for not mentioning my name. Allah Hafiz.

Answer:

It is likely that you are suffering from some form of depression. Therefore, I urge you to speak to your doctor first; he may refer you to a specialist who can treat this condition. There is no need for you to shy away from receiving treatment for the Prophet (peace be upon him) has told us to receive treatments when we are sick, and take medications that are prescribed. As his beloved wife A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) tells us the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to consult physicians and take medications.  He also said, “O servants of Allah, seek treatments and take medications (when you are sick) for Allah has appointed a cure for every kind of sickness.”

Having said this, I should also point out: You should always complement the treatments with spiritual healing through prayer and Qur’an. I advise you to be diligent in your daily prayers, and start and end your day with the Prophetic du’as; which you could find in any standard du’a book.  You should get a copy of  Imam Ibn al-Qayyim’s Invocation of God (it is available from amazon.com), and you should study it and practise its lessons.

On a daily basis, you should also read fathihah, aayat al-kursi and the last three surahs of the Qur’an three times each, both in the morning and evening, and blow into your hand, and then wipe over your face and the upper part of your body.

For further details on spiritual healing, you may consult the detailed answers published on this site.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 19:

Linda – 21 –  India

Should I Conceal Her Sins Even In This Case?

As-salamu `alaykum. I know that we Muslims should conceal our brother's/sister's sins. But I don't know if this is the case:

A brother's family asked me information about a sister, in order to ask her hand, but I've been told that this sister used to chat with my cousin. So, I wonder what I should do. Should I conceal her sin? What should I say about her in this case? Jazak Allahu Khair!

Answer:

You are not allowed to cast allegations about anyone based on hearsay, for Islam does not allow spreading rumours and gossip as it would only undermine harmonious social relations between people.

So, you are not justified in mentioning what you heard about the sister to the person who has enquired about her. You simply should say: I don’t have sufficient knowledge about her.

However, if you have clear evidence that she was involved with your cousin, in an illicit relationship, and she is still continuing the same, then you should say, “I cannot vouch for her character.” You should not go into details.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 20:

Ebadou Abd

I'm a non-Muslim. The question is: if I was with a man whose religion is Muslim, do I have to wear hijab? Thanks.

Answer:

It is a good idea for you to do so. If you are a Christian or a Jewish woman married to a Muslim, it is even recommended in your religion to do so, for as we know the women around Moses, Jesus and all prophets were covering themselves more or less in the same way as Muslim women do. Look at Mary, the mother of Jesus (peace be upon them both).

How does she attire herself? It is true that Christians today have secularized their dress code, but that does not mean it is not the ideal woman’s attire according to the teachings of Jesus, and that is what the nuns wear even today.

Allah Almighty knows best.

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Question 21:

Hasan – Egypt

As-salamu `alaykum. Dear scholar, we have read in the papers that the Pakistan deputy attorney-general is cleaning the shoes of Hindus at Amritsar Golden Temple as a kind of apology and making peace with the Hindus for killing one of the Sikh by Taliban. What is the stance of Shari`ah o that.

Answer:

I cannot comment on something of which I don’t have sufficient facts, especially when your question itself does not make any sense. For how could the deputy general be cleaning the shoes of Hindus at Amritsar Golden temple which belongs to Sikhs?  Hindus do not go there.

Therefore, you need first to verify the information before making any judgments. Not everything that we read or see in the media can be considered as true. Allah says, “ O you who believe! If any iniquitous person comes to you with a [slanderous] tale, use your discernment, lest you hurt people unwittingly and afterwards be filled with remorse for what you have done.” (Qur’an: 49:6).

Allah Almighty knows best.


The editor of OnIslam Live Fatwa service.

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